Lately I have become aware that, in the rush to be helpful, I have actually done more harm than good. I want to help. but have recently realized I may fail to understand. My ego gets involved and things don’t go as well as they might have, Had I just watched and done nothing, instead of wanting so badly to help and creating more problems
My Ego says.
I get to feel like the savior and get to be all proud of myself and pat myself on the back. Look, what you have done Jeffrey, you’re such a good guy. I have read that the best help you can be to someone is that which you are not aware of giving.
People who try to improve things frequently achieve remarkable success in making them worse.
In the final analysis the solution to problems lies neither in action or inaction but in understanding, for where there is true understanding, there is no problem.
I am often too eager looking for opportunities where, when I meet someone and think the reason is that I will be able to be of service. I am finding that the answer is already within them. I just need to do my dance, being my usual goofy self and the seed within will begin to sprout. If I try to say anything it may fall on ears not prepared to hear my message.
I will from now on include in my practice to be open to those new ideas. I might actually be in need of help from others rather than being in a position to be of service. Don’t get me wrong. I will not stop wishing to help. I just have to be conscious of Mr. Ego trying to interfere and ruining a great friendship.
If the charge was one of breaking and entering with the intention of doing good, how many of us could plead not guilty.
I will do my best to be present, immensely grateful, smile because there is more reason to than not. If I am asked to help, make sure I am really helping and hopefully, I will be a good helper, just by being me.
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